Whatever, delightful, and after the sex part, pillow talk. I don’t remember if he returned the favor, almost certainly not to completion as this is way more complicated with someone who has had prostate surgery and has no cum (ahem, yours truly). I gave Josh the best blowjob I could for that day and time (in other words, stellar). He had some tattoos, which I wanted to look at and know the stories behind, but he told me: “I don’t like to talk about my tattoos.” Alrighty then. Before I knew it we were kissing, and he took my hand and put it over his hardened cock (still in his pants) telling me that “it got hard as soon as I got out of the car.” I asked him if I could touch him (consent!) and he said yes. Josh showed up on time, came in and sat next to me on the couch. It would be at my house, and he agreed to the day and time – a weeknight, early evening. Probably the next day I got a message from him saying that indeed he did want to make that date. We didn’t have a long meeting – I just told him I thought he was quite attractive and I’d be able to provide this “older man experience” he was looking for and he should think about it.
I told him that from where I sit it’s pretty common, or at least I’d heard this quite often from other guys his age. He told me his story, or part of it: He was bisexual, pretty much inexperienced with guys, had what he called a “compulsion” for older men (his words: “older middle-aged men”) every once in a while that was this desire he could not explain. We got our coffees and I suggested a walk around the San Fernando Valley neighborhood we were in, as this particular coffee joint didn’t lend itself to private conversation. Thus: Starbucks, or coffee chain of your choice, perfect for this kind of encounter.īonus points to my heart: Josh showed up on time. I realize, especially with the growth of the apps, that guys do this all the time now but I still haven’t been able to get my head around it. I don’t like inviting strangers over nor do I like showing up at a stranger’s house sight unseen (in Josh’s case, I believe he was living with his mother at the time) because it’s not safe or pleasant to do that. I wrote back, saying I enjoyed being with younger guys and could provide that “experience” should he so desire it from me.Īfter the usual back-and-forth messages via email, we agreed to meet for coffee. He included a photo and of course, he was adorable, as the majority of 24-25 year olds likely are. I was in my mid-50s (this happened several years ago).
Josh had created a profile saying he was very attracted to men 20 – 30 years older than he was and wanted to meet someone for an experience, to see what that was like.
So, again, on how we met: I was searching the site for younger guys in my area who wanted to meet older guys. It’s not just some added aspect of a potential date, like it might be (the age factor) on hook-up sites like Scruff or even Grindr (which skews younger anyway). The reason for this? From my point of view as the older man, it’s because the younger men on these two sites are sincere about their desires to be with someone older – it’s the main reason for being there. That said, the quality of the men I’ve met on both those sites has been spectacular, if compatible partners have been few and far between. In other words, yes, there are lots of gay men who would like someone older or younger to be with when you take it on a macro level, say countrywide or worldwide, but maybe not so many in any particular locality (big cities are always, always better though). I’ve had profiles on two websites – and, off and on, for quite awhile (though not currently as of this writing, 11/27/18) and generally think they’re not that effective – the main reason being their niche audience and international reach. I haven’t written one in a while, so I thought I’d talk about one of my own experiences - with more to come in subsequent posts.įirst, let’s call him Josh. The various posts on this blog pertaining to the idea of older-younger gay couplings are the most popular.